We love it when people ask us how we’re feeling, rather than telling us how they think we are doing. We love it even more when they listen to our response, and receive it in the genuine, sincere sense it is expressed. “I love you,” builds. “I worry (all the time)” destroys. If worry is a manifestation of love, then why not cut to the chase, and just love, building up strength in all?

Recurring themes:




If one is not magnifying the positives and minimizing the negatives, then one is wasting an opportunity to maximize human potential and happiness.

Who forces themself to relive the worst moments of their life, over and over, but none of the best? Why? How may we help them? What are the hazards of helping?

Perspective at every level and scale.

A mighty thank you to Chris Uggen for taking what was in my head, and supporting intuitions with sources. Be sure to read his well-measured post, and all links.




Transcript of His Holiness’s Public Talk on Universal Responsibility in the Modern World Royal Albert Hall, London, United Kingdom, May 22, 2008
On 12/22/2012 add
HT to Fabio Rojas at
for sharing an article highlighting Bernice Pescosolido’s comments:
“Tight-knit communities a factor in many shootings, IU sociologist says”


Added 12/23/12;
Dec 19 comment from Walt French at

One nation, under the gun. by Jill Lepore April 23, 2012


Spontaneous mutation as a beginning.

Spontaneous regression of tumors as a downstream possibility. The mystery: the intermediate interactions.

Time-dependence, inflammation at different levels, negotiation and prioritization of dangers.

We need to preserve what we need for repair processes. Explorations of variants of healing continue at multiple levels, scales, and angles.

Walking (contrast the roll and the ball, sensation, strength, balance)

NDWBB! Yes, we will!

Arms, hands, and fingers


Those products that are bought, sold, processed, and distributed, or any permutation thereof.

Great, full day — so much so that I ran out of steam to correctly quote myself in my Facebook status (and therefore ended up with one of those that will say more about any person commenting, than about any of the muliple meanings I had in mind — so I make note here of the idea train (or Factory, if one wishes) in motion, among many more strands. Interaction, baby!

Grateful indeed.

At some point, the shift in perspective turns chronic illness into a focus on _chronic healing_. This is to be welcomed. With the choice, why would we not choose to view and fuel how we think and talk about living: in a way that orients us to receive and accept healing? (Make no mistake about it, what we accept, we also share in return.)

It no longer matters how rapidly we regain functions. We must devote our energies to the tasks at hand–not to just conventionally attending to presentation of self. (Many times, we are discovering and refashioning self, forging new paths.) This area of freedom from rigid expectations, no doubt, propels toddlers through their development. Exploration, familiarization with body and mind, and social influences are all essential.

It pains me to witness from afar, but I respect the interpersonal processes in motion. I am still learning how to alleviate a shared suffering that is particularly born where patience must learn to dwell. Respect and boundaries are important. I have erred on the side of advocating for my brothers and sisters, yet always with a profound sense of empathy for caregivers.

Truth of experiences

There’s so much more going on than can be observed or measured. How can “attitude” be assessed from point-of-view of individuals not dealing with the series of moments and circumstances, let alone the physiological underpinnings? Anyone thrown in to a pit, and constantly tested and assessed, without a release from scrutiny, needs moments when their loved ones are there, and elated, for existence. Our facial expressions and movements — many not even under our control, most others much more muted, possibly conserving energy for work sessions — are not the dependable, taken for granted mood indicators they used to be. Yes, it is out of love, concern, hope. We can acknowledge that, affirm those qualities, while channeling them in ways to empower all involved.