We love it when people ask us how we’re feeling, rather than telling us how they think we are doing. We love it even more when they listen to our response, and receive it in the genuine, sincere sense it is expressed. “I love you,” builds. “I worry (all the time)” destroys. If worry is a manifestation of love, then why not cut to the chase, and just love, building up strength in all?

Recurring themes:

https://przybysz.wordpress.com/2008/11/25/gems-and-selective-memory/

https://przybysz.wordpress.com/2011/08/13/culprit-fear-in-case-it-helps-anyone/

https://przybysz.wordpress.com/2011/08/09/because-its-what-jordan-taught-us/

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Pain is exhausting. I still tire fast/out of nowhere, dealing with tumor load, but I’m not rundown 24/7 like I was. I went through years and years of that chronic pain. Never did find a pain med that solved that (being at Notre Dame and around my nephews were great consolations, and I did learn a lot from experiencing that invisible load). At one point, after two more meds had turned on me, I insisted to local neurologist and then the pain clinic specialist, that I wanted to pursue working on movement, strength, and exercise. Both of them still insisted I try more meds. No thank you–I just kept going about my passions, like you are. FINALLY got my therapy on after another few years of pain, and going through the wringer with meningioma surgery (times three). Miracle of all, between recoveries and alleviation of most of the pain. True, much is gone due to numbness and lowered sensitivity, but here I am in the position of possibly acquiring more (hopefully short-term) pain with this surgery, than what I have going in. This is a first, other than my very first surgery. I do have the alleviation of pressure on my entire spinal cord, and more, to gain short and long term. I don’t think I’d be alive if we had started spinal surgeries on me in my teens, and I’m so thankful for even the advancements in knowledge and experience in even the past five years, not to mention the cumulative tools and resilience I’ve built over 22 years. The timing is feeling right.

Thanks for getting me on a roll, and listening. It’s always surprising how things work out over time. We are bombarded with messages that everything just gets worse with age/disease course/yada yada, and it totally neglects the reality of how adaptive our bodies and minds are. Tap your potential and give yourself some credit for how well you are holding up, all things considered. I hope your appointments go well, and your energy level picks up while pain plummets.

Love and Hugs,

If one is not magnifying the positives and minimizing the negatives, then one is wasting an opportunity to maximize human potential and happiness.

Who forces themself to relive the worst moments of their life, over and over, but none of the best? Why? How may we help them? What are the hazards of helping?

Perspective at every level and scale.

A mighty thank you to Chris Uggen for taking what was in my head, and supporting intuitions with sources. Be sure to read his well-measured post, and all links.

http://chrisuggen.blogspot.com/2012_12_01_archive.html#18

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http://dalailama.com/messages/transcripts/universal-responsibility-modern-world

Transcript of His Holiness’s Public Talk on Universal Responsibility in the Modern World Royal Albert Hall, London, United Kingdom, May 22, 2008
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On 12/22/2012 add
HT to Fabio Rojas at
http://orgtheory.wordpress.com/2012/12/19/social-isolation-and-school-shootings/
for sharing an article highlighting Bernice Pescosolido’s comments:
“Tight-knit communities a factor in many shootings, IU sociologist says”

http://www.heraldtimesonline.com/mobile/spweb/?d=/stories/2012/12/18/news.tight-knit-communities-a-factor-in-shootings-iu-sociologist-says.sto

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Added 12/23/12;
Dec 19 comment from Walt French at
http://thesocietypages.org/pubcrim/2012/12/18/a-broader-based-approach-to-shootings/#comment-1784

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One nation, under the gun. by Jill Lepore April 23, 2012

http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2012/04/23/120423fa_fact_lepore

Tea and honey

(Even simpler than the process paper I wrote for layered Jell-O, for 12th grade English)

Shared with family member* who needed directions, and inspired by my nephews:

1[encircled] MAKE HOT TEA

2[encircled] ADD HONEY, STIR & SERVE

* Highly intelligent male, with irrational fear of kitchen activities; always exceeds expectations despite reluctant attitude, AKA “Popcorn King”

Howie is out with the P. Zambrano-inspired game show. I have the sick-person’s dilemma: how to sufficiently praise the substitute honey tea maker, without diminishing the level of appreciation and praise for the original honey tea maker.

Howie and Chris *rock* as sociologists.

I may have alluded to it, but I would need to check whether I cited it.

“But [Dr.] Horn said he believes Peyton will be back. ‘A lot of what dictates how people heal is their mental makeup,’ Horn said. ‘There’s no doubt he’s got a pretty strong mental makeup, and he’s got a great amount of fortitude and determination.’ ”
From “Surgeon gives insight into Manning’s possible problems*” retrieved on December 1, 2012, from
http://www.wishtv.com/dpp/sports/colts_and_nfl/surgeon-gives-insight-into-mannings-possible-problems

* Updated: Wednesday, 15 Feb 2012, 4:16 PM EST Published: Tuesday, 06 Sep 2011, 6:42 PM EDT

Dr. Horn is my spinal surgeon at Goodman Campbell Brain and Spine. I am preparing questions for him, and recalled the Peyton Manning link prior to our initial meeting. PM has been playing for Denver since then, and I have quipped to myself and in passing to others, about using his outcome as a sort of barometer in contemplating the timing of any surgery to address tumors and cysts compressing substantial portions of my spinal cord. (As amusing an anecdote as that may serve, I have a matrix of time-varying covariates at play–the greatest of which are quite serious. Always remember: laughter is a healing force in itself.) There are many fascinating asides here, but suffice it to say Dr. Lou places a whole lot of stock in fundamentals and preparation, while never neglecting the importance of INTANGIBLES. Come to find out, PM was born in the same year as I was, and we have more in common than I would have guessed when he was a QB for that orange-colored uniform school.

I am a fan of intangibles**, I am bringing quite the mental orientation and experience necessary for Team Przybysz to shine. Glad to know it factors into coach’s play book.

Now is the time to be receptive to the positive unknowns.

** Many folks saw Manti Te’o pushing the broom at the basketball game. I noticed him costumed as one of the zamboni drivers at the hockey game. TCB

Shout-out to Sky and NDWBB, following elevator ride with Assistant Coach Beth Morgan Cunningham. (No inadvertent autograph, as with the Hesburgh/Joyce elevator moment.)

GO IRISH!

What is the answer to challenges and adversity?